” Our hope for you is unshaken, for we know that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in our comfort. ” 2 Corinthians 1:7
Our final lesson is about a woman who has a father that battles the disease of alcoholism. Addiction is not an easy subject to talk or write about, but Donna Pyle gave some wonderful insight into how to find comfort through difficult times like this. No one can stop the care that our God wants to provide, can provide, and does provide for us. But we struggle with allowing Him to comfort us.
We hurt when those we love hurt. Those words are so true aren’t they? Whether it is their addiction or their grief, mental or physical state we long to comfort them. Sometimes placing our own hurt aside to comfort them. We need to allow the One True God to comfort us when we feel lost, unsure, and just plain down about it all. Many children of alcoholics tend to be “fixers”. I am one of those children that have that tendency, although at 43 I can say that I have let go a lot more than I used to. Speaking from my own experience, one wants to fix things that they are in charge of and even things they are not. So it sometimes causes issues generations down the line.
Our hope should not be in what we can fix, it needs to focus on the hope we have in God and the gifts he has given us. 1 Peters 1:13 tells us
“Therefore, preparing your minds for action and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. “
When we are in need of comfort our goal should be to turn to God and focus on the grace and comfort he has offered us, but I personally will turn to my own coping mechanisms before Him. It’s a change we all need to probably make.
Admitting that you are not responsible for fixing or correcting problems that are not yours to do so, is the first step to letting go of the control issues that bind us so very much. It’s hard and I find myself struggling at times, especially with my children and parents. Jesus authority is above all else, we must abide in him. We can love our family members that are addicted, but odds are we will not be able to fix them. That is where prayer, heavy and often done prayer comes into play in our lives.
“Search me O God, and know my heart. Try and know my thoughts.” Psalm 139:23
Perhaps memorizing this bible verse would aide us in being able to let go of some of the control. If we feel that old habit coming into play, stop and say those words to remind us that He is here. That He will help us, comfort us, and has control of all things. Spending time in the Word is also key and surrounding ourselves with other believers makes it a not so lonely road. There are others in similar situations, that have dealt with family members addicted, lost loved ones, and deal with depression.
We all have free will, that was a gift from God as well. So, as we, begin focusing on the release of controlling from our lives, let us remember that just as those we love that are struggling, we too can choose to let old habits change to new ones.
On Page 243 you will find that Donna wrote the following and I think it holds much truth.
Hope and comfort arrive when we come to a place of fully surrendering our entire will over to God. Every day. Sometimes, every hour.
Let’s end with Matthew 6: 24-34, it happens to be one of my favorite sections in the bible.
“No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money. 25“Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?26 Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? 27 And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?7 28 And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin,29 yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31 Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. 34 “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
As we finish this final lesson in The God Of All Comfort I hope that you enjoyed this series. I pray that we can come together again in the future. I encourage you to share you thoughts and anything you liked or disliked about the blog posts. It’s a time of learning for me and I accept all respectful advice.
May God bless you and keep you. May we allow Him to comfort, guide, encourage, protect, and love us as He intended to. I pray we can take our old habits and the control issues and put them to bed. Bring forth a loving more delightful response to our struggles in this world. Praise be to God.
In Jesus Name,
Grace is a gift,