I have been kind of missing in action these days. I haven’t had time to sit at my computer and put my thoughts and feelings down. It’s taking its toll on me but there have been some very important tasks at hand taking up my time! I’ve been on a emotional roller coaster and I was very very high and then by Sunday morning very low, more like drained. Let’s start with the high shall we?
Our weekend was spent celebrating our oldest daughter’s marriage.
I have to say this day was one of the most enjoyable days in my life. The weather was lovely, the bride beautiful, the wedding party fun, and it just went off very smoothly. Being surrounded by family and friends while watching your offspring take a new path in her journey is something surreal.
On Sunday morning I made my way to my mother’s home. I have one sibling that doesn’t live in state and while they were home we had to go through our mother’s house together. Let me take a moment to show off my siblings at my daughter’s wedding. They clean up pretty good, don’t they! 🙂
The task of going through our mother’s home was not one I looked forward to honestly. I would like to say though, if I had to do it, I’m glad I had these three to do it with. The love and support of these three people is beyond what I deserve. Although our parents may not have been the best parents in the world, their kids turned out pretty darn good I think! Our bond will not be easily broken, the material items that lay in my mother’s house are just those. Material items. They will not bring her back, they will not bring us a fortune, they will not bring us peace. They will only remind us of the woman we called Mom.
We spent two days from morning till about 11:00 pm looking, touching, and separating our mother’s belongings. Those were long days. We did the following and it seemed to work well for us. When you come upon an item that more than one would like, we flipped a coin. When three people were involved, we flipped, then odd man out. Then the last two flipped. There were no cat fights, name calling, dirty looks or anything like it. I think because when we began we spoke honestly and said how we felt. No material item is worth losing or fighting with a family member. It just isn’t.
I’m happy to say I came home with things that I can finish that my mom began, patterns she used, dishes from my childhood, and various other items. The best treasures were the three I got to share the trip down memory lane with. My brother and two sisters.
Life can be turbulent at times, but there’s always a safe place to land. Mine is my home, family, and time with God.
Grace is a gift,