I have been pondering for a few days the friendships I have, and the state they are in. I’m not talking about the social media friends you don’t really know or see much of. It’s the closest of closest gal pals I’m talking about.
I feel compelled to apologize to those closest to me in the world of friendships. (you know who you are)
First, let me direct you to my post Friendships that I wrote October 1, 2014. Three whole years ago! It was a coincidence for sure that this little nugget popped into my view today. Honestly, I hadn’t given this post much thought, then WordPress decided to share with me someone had liked it today. I took a stroll down memory lane and read it. But I was actually pondering my friendship connections for a couple weeks now.
After three years I’ve come to realize that I am not nurturing my relationships with my closest girlfriends like I used to. I realize now that this is a by product of my emotional roller coaster ride I jumped on back in 2014. I have hidden away in the walls of my home verses sharing the hardest times with those who love me. I haven’t joined the celebratory moments due to anxiety or feeling the weight of the world upon me.
I recall I used to send cards more often, make sure we had coffee or dinner dates, and even text more than we do now. The relationships in my life have become…. stagnet. Is that it?
The point where the connection is where we click LIKE on a photo or comment GOOD LUCK to one of the people in your life that probably knows more than many others. The ones that would drop anything for you, if you just picked up the phone to call or text. I must say, when I do click love, like, or type a comment, normally I am wishing them so much goodness I can feel it. I think to myself, when was the last time we saw each other?
The face to face interactions that bring forth the building one another up and you’re not alone right now strengths has faded to the back of the line. The moments where you laugh till you cry, your heart literally aches in your chest at the words they have shared so willingly or you shake your head in agreement. Let’s not forget the you rejoice at the success of the one across from you moments. Are these all just faded memories?
Oh I know. Our lives are busy and our families need us. We don’t have the energy to go out and the comfy pj pants are more enjoyable than those jeans. The stresses of the job, family, church, and kid’s activities are all weighing us down. The fact that our marriage isn’t healthy or one of our kids is having some major issues keeps us from connecting in fear it will be found out! ( I know, I’ve been there on both those topics!)
The re-booting of ourselves in womanhood has been put on the back burner.
99% of the time after being with one or a group of friends I feel just that.
REBOOTED. REFRESHED. RELAXED.
I sometimes forget to laugh in my daily life. I know, it’s a sad thing. But when I’m with a friend or two it just naturally happens. Seriously. No Joke.
So why have I distanced myself from the women God has placed in my life?
I guess I already answered that in previous paragraphs.
I think I’m ready to move forward in my relationships. To re-connect with my tribe of women friends.
I guess this post was mostly to motivate me, put it out there, and make me accountable. I don’t want to end up later in life wishing I had done more. I love my women friends and I can’t wait to share all the moments before us!
Do you have a girlfriend that it’s been awhile since you hung out or talked with? Maybe it’s time to remedy that!
Until next time!